tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285705556039241258.post2548919217218139458..comments2023-08-11T12:16:13.605-04:00Comments on The Attached Feminist: Why "Attached"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285705556039241258.post-33397907343742060882008-11-17T10:09:00.000-05:002008-11-17T10:09:00.000-05:00I have found that a lot of parents misunderstand "...I have found that a lot of parents misunderstand "attachment" and it looks like co-dependance. Mom's don't want kids away from their sides, don't want to ever stop nursing (I am exaggerating!), and that nothing in this world is acceptable for their kid except themselves. <BR/><BR/>So What III think is to do your attachment parenting in public, and give it a name so that others have language to associate to the picture, because you are (at least for me) redefining attachment parenting.<BR/><BR/>One aspect of attachment parenting, or maybe this is not an aspect and something else, is Child Centeredness. That the environment is prepared to support the child's developmental needs, rather than them having to do 100% of the adjusting to the adult centered environment. Are we supporting kids to know themselves, to explore the world without hyper-fears, to be individuals that work well with anyone else?<BR/><BR/>So many goals in parenting, and yet so much of it is us being the right parents, and being able to model learning from our mistakes, and celebrating those things that matter to the heart...it isn't about our kids being the right kids...I wish I could get this through my head.<BR/><BR/>I like parent development, family development and child development....attachment theory, if I understand your post, is making sure that that development happens in such a way as to leave our souls flourishing and our creativity mushrooming, rather than stagnating and suffocating.....<BR/><BR/>G, isn't family transformation something to behold!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04003829208118030041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285705556039241258.post-14058275343053732282008-11-13T10:17:00.000-05:002008-11-13T10:17:00.000-05:00Well said! One of the huge rewards of practicing A...Well said! One of the huge rewards of practicing AP (though I didn't really get into it with a "what's the payoff" attitude) is that there is such a strong bond of trust between you and your child because you don't manipulate through shame and abandonment. So when you do mess up -- and believe me, we all do! -- you can rest assured that your *day* may have taken a hit, but your relationship at the end of that day is still as strong as ever.Sugar Snap Consignmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06796053685308109047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285705556039241258.post-45867191104239153262008-11-10T16:23:00.000-05:002008-11-10T16:23:00.000-05:00Sorry I misspelled your name on that last comment....Sorry I misspelled your name on that last comment. It's tough to type one-handed while breastfeeding!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285705556039241258.post-65178174747034492532008-11-10T16:22:00.000-05:002008-11-10T16:22:00.000-05:00Hi Cynrgia. Thanks for finding me and blogrolling...Hi Cynrgia. Thanks for finding me and blogrolling me. I look forward to reading your blog and maybe even running into you in Cville!<BR/><BR/>--DollyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com